I was reminded recently of a sequence from the TV show Friends, where Chandler goes on a date with Rachel’s boss. He ends it with “Well this is great, we should do it again, I’ll give you a call” despite not enjoying himself or wanting a second date, or having any intention of calling her. Rachel calls him out on it and tells him he has to go on another date but end it...
How many times today have you said “I know”? Or perhaps you just thought it to yourself, alongside an inward eye roll. The moment it happens is usually the moment we stop listening, the moment we stop seeking to understand, and the moment we stop being curious. We do it all the time. It’s a natural extension from the automatic system of our brain – designed both to protect us, but also to not...
I love getting things right. And I love being right. If I’m not careful, a decent part of my brain at any given time is taken up working out what the current rules are of whatever “game” or role I’m playing, and then striving to follow them, do it right, be perfect. Sound familiar to anyone? For a lot of high achievers, this is what we learned to do as we grew up, and...
Shame. Ugh. Even the word is horrible, the feeling of it even more so.
Intentional Leadership – what is it, and why is it important? When I look back over 2018, I feel pretty proud. I achieved a lot – in my business, in my relationships, and in myself. It’s incredibly important to celebrate that, whether or not it was exactly what I had in mind. Us perfectionists tend not to do this very well, so it is a great thing to practise! It is equally important to...